Living by Rules I Didn't Make

Plugging out...

Why should my life fit according to norms... Why should I be happy about things I'm supposed to be happy about and value the things I'm supposed to value. Just because that's the way it happened in your life does not mean that's the way it will happen in mine... i am a different person, remember!

And yet, if every person is different, how come so many people have similar lives and go through similar experiences.. so similar that they end up becoming the norm or the rule of the way life should be lived...

But, here's a question: (and to my mind the crucial question to ask) Would their lives have been similar to each other if they weren't trying so damn hard to fit their lives into the 'norms' in the 1st place...

It's like what the Oracle tells Neo on their first meeting...

Oracle: "Don't worry about the vase"
Neo: "What vase?"... and he turns and drops the vase
Oracle: "That vase"
Oracle: (and this is the crux) "... would you have dropped it if i hadn't warned you in the 1st place"

And that's it, isn't it... would Neo have dropped the vase if the Oracle hadn't told him to mind the vase in the 1st place...

Would all people living by the norms & similar lives have been similar if they weren't trying to fit their lives to the norms... isn't a self-fulfilling prophecy...

If I live by the norms, the norms self-perpetuate and become even more the rule...

The way i see it... there's a vast difference between what's the "norm" and what's "normal"... and everyday i make a choice whether i want to live by the norm or be normal. Do I want my life to be like every other person I know or do I live the way i want to live!

More later... For now, I'm plugging back in...